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Before the Internet Left to my own devices, I’d be lucky to meet one candidate in a year to date. I’m an average looking guy and I don’t do bars—not that they are bad—I just don’t do them. I did some single dances. And even though I know that every one there is there to meet another single, my brain just doesn’t function well with loud noise—the best excuse I can give. I’m not a total wallflower so I do usually find a dance partner, but starting and continuing a meaningful conversation beyond, “where do you live? Go to many dances? Have any children? What kind of work do you do? is just beyond my skill level. And it seems that as you’re carrying or shall I say attempting to carry on a conversation, she’s scoping out the dance floor to see who else is there and guess what, I’m probably doing the same thing. Plus my dancing needs some fine-tuning. I’m noticing many of the hustle steps I learned 20 years ago, just aren’t used today. My friend tells me to break the ice by using slow dances to whisper things in their ear and then suggest going away from the dance floor to talk. Sounds like good advice, but what do I whisper is the question? I did networking in a professional network organization hoping to find another single person. The few singles I met either were already in a relationship or just weren’t interested. I attended Ala-anon for a year for three basic reasons: 1 discover why I attract needy partners 2. discover why I’m a co-dependent 3. hopefully find a relationship and then sometimes just to be around people to soften my life crisis. I reasoned that all the women are helpers and it might be good to have two helpers in a relationship—poor logic. Most women were so afraid of relationship that it was even difficult to get them to go for a cup of coffee. Of course there are interest groups, church groups and the like, but I’m not a joiner—not my style. Internet dating, on the other hand, fits my style. It is certainly different than regular conventional dating. Conventional dating is how I met my last wife 7 years ago at her place of work. She was much younger than me and I simply discounted her having any interest in me since I was eleven years older. I really wasn’t looking for a date—at least that’s what I told myself. In speaking with her at her place of work, I learned that she was divorced with three children around the ages of my son. I was hoping to develop relationships for him so he’d always be motivated to come for his visitation with dad. She wanted to get to know me before we introduced the kids so we went for lunch. She had a headache that day and I ended up being back lit (the sun shining from behind me) which aggravated her headache. She ate slow like a bird—very slowly as she picked through her salad. Conversation was minimal and dull. I figured it would be the last time we met and had no intentions of calling her again. But remember, left to my own skills, I’m lucky to meet one new person a year and I still wanted to develop a relationship for my son so guess what? I called her again thinking we can get the kids together. Much to my surprise, she wanted to go out again. I forgot where we went or what we did for the second date--it was nonplus and boring to say the least. And again I wondered why she simply doesn't have the kids get together. A few days passed and I called her again. And, much to my surprise she wanted to go out with me again and I wondered why? I expected a dull boring date and just hoped we’d get the kids together in short order but I was beginning to give up on the idea. We went to a popular restaurant for dinner and suffered some polite conversation. It was still early when we finished dinner and I asked if she wanted to see a movie or get a bottle of wine and go to her place. Having read that movies are not a great place to get to know someone, I guided her to the bottle of wine. I figured we’d go to her place, have a glass or two of wine and say good night forever. We had a drink and conversation began to flow. Then touching began to happen and what happened next is left up to your imagination and we ended up getting married about a year later. This generally won’t happen on Internet dating. I’m not saying it was ideal by any stretches of the imagination, but the result was that two people with three dead dates pulled out a marriage out of the hat. It’s like a baseball game in the last of the ninth inning losing 10 to zipo with two out and putting together a winning rally. And now today, even though she and I divorced for many good reasons, I’d probably have done it again for the few things that did work in the marriage and the 30 chapters I wrote about living in the confusion of a child of an alcoholic. That’s another book. Why won’t this fairy tale happen with Internet dating? Simple! With Internet dating, you’ll be meeting on average one-to-two new people a week and if you’re not, then you really want to read through this e-book for you’re doing something seriously wrong. Internet dating is like dating at the speed of light. With the potential for meeting two or more new people each week, if you have a boring evening with someone on the first date, there’s most likely not a second date and no fairy tale. The downside is that it’s a challenge to get to know anyone well enough to pursue a real relationship and this e-book gives you the tips on making that happen. The only thing that keeps one from Internet dating is some basic fears. Yet these fears aren’t just limited to Internet dating. One fear that women have is that she’ll meet Jack the Ripper. The reality is that you could meet him at a dance, in a grocery store, at your doctor’s office, on the Internet, or…. There’s no proof that you’ll have a higher tendency to meet undesirables on the Internet than anyplace else—unless you’re getting into the perverted kinky sex services. In fact, because of the in-depth profiles you complete, you are most likely to meet a more savvy person than at a bar. Then, there’s the concern that the people you meet will be fat when you’re looking for thin. Carol, who was a member for about a year, did meet one person who only had a close up head shot in his profile and when she met him, he had a 450 pound body. You learn to avoid this by requesting full body photos. She also met a man who was a financial advisor and wanted her to write him a check at the end of the meeting for an investment he was pushing. And another guy got a phone call from his wife in the middle of his interview with Carol. My experience and most of those I met have not had these kinds of experiences—they are more of an exception to the rule. I’d say that most of the people I have met actually look better in person than their photos show. And the advantage of Internet dating over the personals in the newspapers is simply no comparison. If you use a recent photo of yourself, you won’t be subjecting yourself to show up at some diner, wait for 20 minutes in the waiting area, and then realize a woman walked by 15 minutes ago, glanced at you, and kept on walking. This e-book is about how to position you so you generate interest and can likewise “fish for relationship” and get interest from others. It’s also about how to deal with the little girl or boy in the candy store. There’s so much candy and you’re so hungry that you want to sample all of it, but not know which candy to start with you can end up with none or get so darn sick from sampling all of it you never want to eat candy again.. The computer is an amazing instrument. Complete 30 or 40 minutes of questions and it can match your profiles with literally hundreds of prospects in your neighborhood. And there’s no question as to whether these prospects are available—they are or they wouldn’t be spending on average of $30/month. Yet, as great as it can be, there are some traps that can make it a nightmare. First we’ll look at getting the most from your profile—how to create it such that a special person will contact you, and then we’ll look at the typical traps into which one can fall. We’ll look at the value of photos and the do’s and don’ts. And then how to communicate with winks, emails and how to get responses. And of course, the next step is to establish communication and there will be valuable tips on the phone call and the first meeting. And it doesn’t stop there. We’ll look at the dilemma of dating two or three people at the same time and when to take the plunge to a monogamous relationship. Unless you’re a guy, before you begin to invest time and money completing the questionnaires and pay your fees, make sure you have at least 4-to-10 digital photos that each show you in a different pose or setting. Even though I highly recommend that guys also have the same amount of digital photos, it’s not nearly as important as I explain in Part IV of the book. All of this and more in this e-book--a $39.95 value for a limited time, it's just $19.95. You’ll want to read and reread it several times as your life unfolds for even sometimes--even when you think you got it going-- things fall apart for life is often more about the plans falling through than it is about the plans we make. A $39.95 value for just $14.95 (limited time)--see below to save even more!!!
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